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Only 11 MPs out of 650 turn up for debate on Westminster paedophile rings

Published November 28, 2014 by misty534

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LOOK at the pathetic turnout from MPs for today’s child abuse inquiry debate in the House of Commons

650 elected MPs & only 11 have bothered to turn up

Do they care – Do they *uck

It is shameful and an absolute insult to all victims of child abuse

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TAP – We need independent MPs with minds of their own, who are not controlled by political parties.

Published on Nov 27, 2014

Bringing the debate on child abuse to a close MP Zac Goldsmith pays tribute to the survivors of abuse, to Labour MPs Tom Watson and Simon Danczuk, “and above all to the extraordinary work by the investigative journalists at Exaro and David Hencke in particular. This is an organisation that has really led the campaign on so many fronts, and I know that the mainstream press who’ve been so slow to pick up on what’s really happening in this scandal, have become heavily dependent and rightly so on Exaro.
And I sometimes feel that because they are online, they don’t have the magazine on your desk, they are somehow invisible to people who are not paying attention, but they are absolutely crucial and David Hencke has an encyclopaedic knowledge of something which I don’t ever want to have encyclopaedic knowledge on frankly, but he’s an extraordinary figure.

There can be no doubt at all that people have done terrible things and that they have been protected by the establishment.

And I’m sure that some of the key figures are alive today, and the measure of success for the police investigation is that those people face justice before they die. This process really needs to happen now. Justice must be done and it must be seen to be done. And it’s no good waiting years and years for some of these people to fade away and be punished in their absence it’s not good enough.
The measure of the success for the inquiry is that we and the wider public understand how these conspiracies and cover ups have been able to happen, it’s only by understanding how they formed that we will have any hope at all of preventing them from happening again.

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In Great Britain, Protecting Pedophile Politicians Is A Matter Of “National Security”

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Submitted by Mike Krieger via Liberty Blitzkrieg blog,

I’ve long written about how the percentage of sociopaths within a group of humans becomes increasingly concentrated the higher you climb within the positions of power in a society, with it being most chronic amongst those who crave political power (see: Humanity is Rising).

The reason for this is obvious. Those with the sickest minds, and who wish to act upon their destructive fantasies, understand that they can most easily get away with their deeds if they are protected by an aura of power and ostensible respectability. They believe that as a result of their status, no one would dare accuse them of horrific activities, and if it ever came to that, they could quash any investigation. Unfortunately for us all, this is typically the case. I previously covered the issue of powerful pedophiles in the UK in the piece: Former BBC Host “Sir” Jimmy Savile Exposed as Major Player in Massive Pedophile Ring.

Now we have evidence of yet another case.

The Guardian reports that:

The security services are facing questions over the cover-up of a Westminster paedophile ring as it emerged that files relating to official requests for media blackouts in the early 1980s were destroyed.

Two newspaper executives have told the Observer that their publications were issued with D-notices – warnings not to publish intelligence that might damage national security – when they sought to report on allegations of a powerful group of men engaging in child sex abuse in 1984.One executive said he had been accosted in his office by 15 uniformed and two non-uniformed police over a dossier on Westminster paedophiles passed to him by the former Labour cabinet minister Barbara Castle.

Ah, national security. Remember that the next time you are lectured that we need to give up our civil liberties in the name of “national security.” Think about what that really means. It really means the security of the status quo to continue to behave like insane criminals with zero accountability.

The other said that his newspaper had received a D-notice when a reporter sought to write about a police investigation into Elm Guest House, in southwest London, where a group of high-profile paedophiles was said to have operated and may have killed a child. Now it has emerged that these claims are impossible to verify or discount because the D-notice archives for that period “are not complete”.

“It feels like just another example of key documents from that period going missing. We need to know more about what has happened. The journalists who have said that D-notices were issued are respected people with no reason to lie.”

The two journalists, Don Hale, the former editor of the Bury Messenger, and Hilton Tims, news editor of the Surrey Comet between 1980 and 1988, both recall their publications being issued with D-notices around 1984. Tims, a veteran of the Daily Mail and BBC, where he was head of publicity for the launch of colour TV, said that his chief reporter had informed him that a D-notice had been issued to him after he tried to report on a police investigation into events at Elm Guest House, where Smith is said to have been a regular visitor.

“The reporter was told that there were a number of high-profile people involved and they were getting boys from a care home in the Richmond area. So I put someone on to it, the chief reporter I think, to make inquiries. It was the following day that we had a D-notice slapped on us; the reporter came over and told me. It was the only time in my career.”

Hale, who was awarded an OBE for his successful campaign to overturn the murder conviction of Stephen Downing, a victim of one of the longest-known miscarriages of justice, said he was issued with a D-notice when editor of the Bury Messenger. He had been given a file by Castle, by then an MEP, which had details of a Home Office investigation into allegations made by the Tory MP Geoffrey Dickens of the existence of a Westminster paedophile ring. The files contained the name of 16 MPs said to be involved and another 40 who were supportive of the goals of the Paedophile Information Exchange, which sought to reduce the age of consent.

The worst part about incidents like these, is that those closest to the situations will often blindly protect the offenders. Such as what is described in the following articles.

From Outside Magazine: The Sex-Abuse Scandal Plaguing USA Swimming

From the Associated PressClassroom Sex Abuse Case to Cost Nearly $140M

My heart goes out to all these young, helpless victims, and all those others whose stories haven’t been told.

Allegations Against Employee at JEM Center In Los Angeles Sparks Uproar

Published August 7, 2013 by misty534

 

Los Angeles CA —  An event was held last night by parents of the Jewish Community in Beverly Hills who were concerned about the claims being leveled by numerous alleged victims against counselor/director of JEM center Mendel Tevel.

The event was hosted in the home of Esther Abehsera, and was organized by Meyer Seewald, director of Jewish Community Watch. In attendance was Deputy District Attorney and Rabbi Benny Forer, and one of Tevel’s numerous alleged victims who agreed to talk to the crowd without using his name. About 50 people were in attendance, a fairly high number for an event that was announced just four hours before it was scheduled to start. The victim agreed to talk on the condition that people would leave phones and recording devices at the door, with the hope that by telling his story to a large group of people, the charges against Tevel will be taken more seriously because someone agreed to speak in front of a real live audience.

The alleged victim now 23, supported by his wife told the crowd that he was 14 when the abuse occurred. With his wife by his side, he recounted how when he was 14 years old he attended “Shterns” Yeshiva in Upstate New York. He recounted: “when I was 14, I was in Yeshiva. We called it Shterns. Mendel Tevel was my Mashpia (mentor) and teacher. It started out when it became a big thing in school to work out, lift weights. Tevel offered to be my personal trainer, and he would push me to work harder and harder, and one time he in order to make me work harder he would whip me with a metal. hanger. And from then on, If i stopped working out I’d get whacked in the back with a metal hanger. I had marks, I bled, and I had cuts.” He further alleged that the abuse escalated “After a few days of working out with him, he started offering me messages to relax my muscles so that I wouldn’t be sore that day. After a few times he got into bed with me and sat on top of me to give me a message. I hate to be a little bit vulgar but while he was giving me the message he was “dry humping me.” “From there it progressed where every day he tried to get me to go to the mikva before Shachris (prayer service). He offered to go with me personally because I didn’t like to be part of the large crowd that go together. One day it was really cold and it was so cold that there was a layer of ice over the Mikvah and I didn’t want to go in. Tevel came up behind me and started smacking me on my behind, and I realized that Tevel had an erection.” It was in that moment that the victim says he realized that something was “not quite right” with what was going on withl and maintains that he distanced himself from Tevel from that point on.

Last week, on a Facebook group called LA Mommies, a member of the group posted about her concern about Tevel’s past and his involvement with JEM center. In her post (which has since been deleted), she alleged that she was contacted by a concerned parent who had heard that Tevel was working at JEM high school. The thread quickly escalated, and one parent, a mother of three wanted to make sure other parents knew about the allegations against Tevel.

This mother said that she was “deeply concerned,” when she saw a Facebook post by Devorah Wagshul, sister in law of Mendel Tevel about JEM with this caption “Ran by the best directors, Aka Bracha and Mende[l]”, attached was a recent Facebook post by JEM Hebrew High. Upon further investigation, this flyer was found on JEM’s website, the phone number lists Brocha Illulian as the contact person for the program, Bracha Illulian is the wife of Mendel Tevel.

Upon contacting JEM, a woman who would only identify herself as Chelsea said that “We’re safe here, there’s really not an issue, everyone already knows that there’s no issue.” When asked if Tevel was still part of the staff at JEM she said that “There’s no issue, everyone’s safe, there’s nothing wrong. Nothing happened. Everyone knows this, these are false accusations… and, he didn’t do this, to anybody. They’re lying.”

Other attendees of the event recounted their own personal stories of being abused when they were minors. One of them, Mordy Gluckowsky alleges that he was abused by his dorm counselor at a Chabad yeshiva abroad, but when he notified the principal of his school he was expelled two days later.

According to David Smith*, asked that his real name not be used, he was sexually abused by Tevel repeatedly when he was 14/15 years old. David recounts moments where Tevel “whacked him” on his rear with a leather belt; he also recalls multiple incidents of oral sex being performed on him by Tevel. David, who grew up in the Crown Heights community still has the ability to press charges against Tevel for another few months but is reluctant to do so because of what he describes as “strong family pressure and community pressure” placed upon him not to do anything to Tevel. David alleges that he was contacted by a member of the Tevel family and was offered money in exchange for his silence, David says he didn’t accept this offer but is still very reluctant to come forward.

Another alleged victim of Tevel who is past the statute of limitations recounted how Tevel would lure him the basement of his parents’ home by offering him candy, the use of his game boy, and recalls “He would tie me up to the trampoline and would whip me on my backside with a belt, sometimes with my clothes on and sometimes with my clothes off.” This alleged victim’s testimony is very similar to that of other victims who say that aside from the sexual abuse they endured by Tevel, there was a significant amount of physical assault perpetrated against them by Tevel with leather belts in their backside area.

A letter written by members of the Jewish community has already acquired almost 75 signatures within 24 hours. The letter offers support and encouragment to victims of Tevel to come forward. The reason for writing this letter according Seewald was because “we want to show the victims how much support there already is out there, public support for them. There are so many people who are anonymously offering their support, that’s not good enough anymore.” As this story continues to grow, many people in the Los Angeles communities are unsure or uncertain if their children are safe while attending JEM center. Some mothers are alleging that Tevel sometimes goes to the Hebrew High school in Beverly Hills to put on Tefilin with younger teenagers. Other parents expressed concern about Brocha Illulian, Tevel’s wife who would frequently stand near their children’s schools and hands out flyers promoting JEM’s upcoming events.

Seewald, who attempted to alert the Illulian family before Tevel was engaged to their daughter said: “I went directly to Rabbi Hertzel Illulian when I heard that his daughter was getting engaged to Tevel. Rabbi Illulian outright dismissed the possibility that Tevel still poses a danger to children, and when I told him the graphic details given to me by one of Tevel’s victims in which the victim recounted Tevel performing oral sex on him, Illulian asked me if “he [the victim] enjoyed it”. A response that even for Seewald, who claims to have heard about so many similar stories, shocked him. “He tried to blame the victim by implying that because he might have enjoyed it, it was his fault.”

Seewald remarked that the event that “it was revolutionary. For the first time in two years a victim got up and talked to parents for the sake of protecting children even though he knew that people may find out his identity. I’ve never seen a victim empowering so many other people to talk. I hope that people learn from this that there’s nothing to be embarrassed or ashamed of. People should see that coming forward is not just something that will help the public, but it will also help victims heal from their personal trauma.” He ended off by saying that he hopes that this turn of events will set a better precedent for victims of the Chabad community in Crown Heights. “We have almost 70 signatures by now, but hardly any of them are from members of the Crown Heights community, where Tevel committed many of his alleged crimes.” Seewald remarked that this event was a very emotional one for him, and he hopes that the Crown Heights and greater Chabad communities will follow the example set by the people who attended this event and also by the people who signed the letter of support.

*name changed to protect the anonymity of this person

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Don’t be afraid of what others will think for taking a stand, End this vicious silence by showing your full name in support of the brave survivors who have come forward already, and for the one’s who are afraid to but might change their mind if they see someone like you proud to support them.   Click Here

 

By Chaim Levin

 

Alice Day is April 25th, WATCH YOUR CHILDREN

Published April 23, 2013 by misty534

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A.K.A Pedophile Pride Day

 

It’s called Alice Day, named after Alice Liddell and “Alice In Wonderland”, originally Pedophile Pride Day. There is a whole story circulating the net that this holiday was named after the story that we all love so much. Wow, show you what twisted minds will do. This holiday for pedophiles is this upcoming week. On this holiday the pedophiles celebrate, rape and molestation of little girls. It is okay to celebrate by “loving” a female child that day. Ugh, how disgusting is this, that we live in a society that allows this sick animals to go around saying these things about our loved ones.

April is Child Abuse Awareness month and coincidentally (or karmically), it is also the month in which child rapists/molesters/”lovers” reserve for their special “it’s okay to sexually assault children” day – “Alice Day.” Alice Day is to sexual predators of children what Christmas is to Christians.

April 25th  Please watch your children. This is the best defense against any predator out there. They are looking for latch key kids, kids neglected, kids from chemically abused parents, single parents, kids without rules

Pink is NOT the color you want to dress your girls in either. Pink is their attraction, so do not dress your little girls in pink. Predators love colors that are sexual like pink, reds, oranges.

http://tuecaa.wordpress.com/2009/07/07/pedophile-symbols-and-codes-an-update/
Pedophile Symbols and Codes. You need to see this.

  • A heart within a heart, or “GLogo” “GirlLover” is used by pedophiles attracted to girls. The heart in a heart, to them, represents a adult/ female child relationship.
  • A blue spiral-shaped triangle symbol, or “BLogo” “BoyLover”, symbolizes a boy (small triangle) surrounded by an older male (larger triangle)- and is meant to show adult/male child relationships.
  • The butterfly CLogo a.k.a. “ChildLover” (commonly looks like four touching hearts) in pink/blue represents non-preferential gender pedophiles (girl or boy attracted, often both).
  • The yin-yang looking circle is CGlogo, used in reference to the website, Common Ground, which was created as a place for both girl and boy attracted pedophiles to meet and sympathize with each other.
  • The pink/blue triangles is “AmaroSymbol” is a variation of the CGLogo.

There are many ways pedophiles and sexual predators will celebrate today:

1. Find activities in their area involving children – such as parties, park outings, sporting events
– They will watch the children, photograph the children, and attempt to have a BM or GM, which stands for “Boy Moment” and “Girl Moment”. This includes a conversation with the child, in which they could gain information to get to the child at a later date. However, this could also include just sitting back watching a particular child at play.

They appraise a child’s form as if it were that of a stripper in a club, and they write the moment down later for their friends – online and in real life – with added feelings of desire they had while exploring the child’s body with their eyes and filthy mind.

Please keep in mind that a child does not have to be nude or in a bathing suit to be visualized that way by these people. They are sick enough to imagine that for themselves.

2. Seek victims for themselves – either through the first option or by riding around looking for easy targets: children walking alone, children playing outside with no supervision, children wandering in a store with an inattentive parent… I don’t have to tell you the rest as “victim” says it all.

3. Seek victims for others – through option 1 as well as option 2. The information they attain through their Boy or Girl moment is not always kept to themselves, especially on Alice Day. They get that information and share it to their pedophilia ring friends so that others will have a chance at acquiring a victim at a later date. The children they snare also often become shared sexual toys for themselves as well as others in their group.Al this information came from The Ultimate Evil Website. Everyone needs to read this website and know and understand what child abuse is all about. It is located at the link above, pedophile symbols and codes.

A  lot of times, the person acquiring this information isn’t even a pedophile, themselves. They are just in it for the money from the sales of the photos and information that a pedophile and child predator can use to get their target.

Also remember that men are not the only perpetrators. Women make up a small percentage of sexual predators and abusers, but they DO exist. Even so far as to pimp out their own children for drugs or other selfish reasons.

I’m sure you’re wondering what can be done to spot or stop these people. You can’t very well go accusing every person you see in a public venue of being a sexual predator, nor should you be paranoid. Just careful.

It’s always better safe than sorry, but there is always common sense.

For instance: if you see a lone person with no children sitting nearby staring at the children at play, it’s a pretty good chance he’s there for less than honorable reasons. Particularly if he/she has a camera and no credentials to any claim of being a reporter – which should also be questioned and dealt with as any parent would by calling the editor of his paper to check his story should he say this.

If you are quite certain you’ve spotted someone with ulterior, twisted motives for watching your child or others at play, call the police immediately. Confrontation with a group of concerned parents also works. No violence is necessary as these people fear being caught at their private game and will quickly vacate the area. You also send a strong message that your children are protected and NOT easy targets!

ALWAYS teach children not to talk to strangers.
ALWAYS teach children to never give personal information to a stranger.
ALWAYS teach children to never give the information of another child to a stranger.
ALWAYS teach children to scream, “NO!” and “STRANGER!” very loudly if they encounter someone asking questions or trying to get them to come with them.
ALWAYS teach children to use a secret or safe word or password and to NEVER tell ANYONE, not even their friends, what this word is.People that want tto take photos of your children are especially suspicious. Teach your childen to watch for these types of people. They prey on the innocence of a child.

I know from experience and studying these creeps that they do in fact ride around looking for prey. They are predators. The child that is alone at the park is in trouble. Have your children use the buddy system. My previous article on “What Sexual Predators Don’t Want You To Know”

Texting Codes Parents Should Know

Let’s face it the kids are out texting us. We need to know what they are saying. Here is a list from The Ultimate Evil website against child abuse, just in case predators text our children. We need to know what these guys and our kids are saying. This is not for modest people. This is 2010, the language is rough. Then there is sexting. Yes sexting. Kids are having sex on the phone these days. Below is a list of codes for all of us parents to know what is being said to our children, especially if they are predators. Predators are always at a child’s level and knows everything about children so they can communicate with them. There are many I have never seen before in my life. It reminds me of when we all learned pig latin. Now I am showing my age. However sexting is far more dangerous in the hands of kids. I know that I gave my grand children phones to be safe, but are they?

5 = High Five
121 = One to one
143 = I love you
182 = I hate you
2moro = Tomorrow
2nite = Tonight
411 = Information
420 = Marijuana
459 = I love you
4NR = Foreigner
4Q = Fuck you
8 = oral sex
86 = Get rid of
9 = Parent is watching
99 = Parent is no longer watching

A3 = Anyplace, anytime anywhere
AAF = As A Friend
ACORN = A Completely Obsessive Really Nutty Person
ADR = Address
AEAP = As Early As Possible

AFAP = As Far As Possible
AIGHT = Allright
AITR = Adult In The Room
AMAP = As Much As Possible
AML = All My Love
AMRMTYFTS = All my roommates thank you for the show
A/S/L – age, sex, locationBJ = Blow job
BOB = Battery Operated Boyfriend
BZ = Busy
BRB = Be right back
BTW = Back to work

CICYHW = Can I copy your homework
CM = Call me
C-P = Sleepy
C/S = Change subject
COS = Change of subject
CBJ = Covered blow job
CD9 = Code 9, parents are around
CRB = Come right back
CRBT = Crying really big tears
CT = Can’t talk
CTC = Care to chat?

CU = See you
CUL8R = See you later
CUNS = See you in school
CUOL = See you online
CYE = Check your e-mail
CYO = See you online
CYT = See you tomorrowDF = Dear friend
DGA = Don’t go anywhere
DH = Dear husband
DW = Dear wife
DIKU = Do I know you?
DL = Down Low (texts) Download (in context of attachments)
DLTM = Don’t lie to me
DNBL8 = Do not be late
DOC = Drug of choice
DOE = Depends on experience
DP = Domestic partner
DUM = Do you masturbate?
DURS = Damn you are sexy

DUSL = Do you scream loud?
DWB = Don’t write back
DWPKOTL = Deep wet passionate kiss on the lips
DYHAB = Do you have a boyfriend
DYHAG = Do you have a girlfriend

EMA = E-mail address
EML = E-mail me later
EMSG = E-mail message

F2F = Face to face
FAB = Features Attributes Benefits
FB = Fuck buddy
FILF = Father I’d like to fuck
FMLTWIA = Fuck me like the whore I am
FMUTA = Fuck me up the ass
FOAF = Friend of a friend
FTF = Face to face
FWB = Friends with benefits
FYF = From your friend

 

GTG = Got to go
G2G = Got to go
GAP = Got a pic? (pic = picture)
GBH = Great Big Hug
GF = Girlfriend
GLBT = Gay Lesbian Bisexual Transgender
GLG = Good looking girl
GLB = Good looking boy
GNOC = Get naked on cam
GOS = Gay or straight
GUD = Geographically undesirable
GYPO – get your pants off

H&K = Hugs and kisses
H4Y = Hot for you
HBIB = Hot but inappropriate boy

I&I = Intercourse and Inebriation
IBTC = Itty bitty titty committee
IDK = I don’t know
IF/IB = In the front or in the back
IIT = Is it tight?
ILF/MD = I love female/male dominance
ILU = I love you
ILY = I love you
IRL = In real life
IWSN – i want sex now
ITS – intense text sex
IWALU = I will always love you

J/O = Jacking off

KFU = kisses for you
KFY = Kiss for you
K4Y = Kiss for you
kitty = Vagina
KK = Kiss kiss
KOTC = Kiss on the cheek
KOTL = Kiss on the lips
KPC – keep parents clueless
KWSTA = Kiss with serious tongue action

L8R = Later
LB? = Like bondage?
LDR = Long distance relationship
LF = Let’s fuck (pedophile lingo would be Little Friend)
LHOS – Let’s have online sex
LHSO = Let’s have sex online
LKITR = Little kid in the room
LOL = Laugh out loud/lots of laughs/lots of love
LMAO = Laugh my ass off
LMFAO = Laugh my f*cking ass off
LMIRL – Let’s meet in real life
LTTIC = Look the teacher is coming
LUSM = Love you so much
LY = Love you
LY4E = Love you forever
LYWAMH = Love you with all my heart

MA = Mature audience
MILF = Mother I’d like to fuck
MIRL = Meet in real life
MorF = Male or Female
MOOS = Member of opposite sex
MOSS = Member of same sex
MOS = Mom over shoulder
MPFB = My personal fuck buddy
MSNUW = Mini-skirt no underwear
MTLA = My true love always
MUAH or MWAH = *it’s the sound of a kiss*
MUSM = Miss you so much

NP = Nosy parents
N/T = No text
NIFOC = Nude in front of computer
NRN = No reply necessary

OLL = Online love
OMG = Oh my god
OMFG = Oh my fucking god

P = Partner
P&C = Private and confidential
POS = Parents over shoulder
PIR = Parents in room
P911 = Parent alert
PA = Parent alert
PAW = Parents are watching
PAL = Parents are listening
PBB = Parent behind back
PHAT = Pretty hot and tempting
PLOS = Parent looking over shoulder
POM = Parent over my shoulder
PRON = Porn
pr0n = Porn (with a number 0 for O)
PRW = Parents are watching

QT = Cutie Q2C = Quick to cum

RL = Real life
RLF = Real life friend
RNN = Reply not necessary
ROFL = Roll on floor laughing
ROTFL = Roll on the floor laughing
ROFLMAO = Roll on floor laughing my ass off
RPG = Roll playing games
RU? = Are you?
RU/18 = Are you over 18?

STFU = Shut the fuck up

TTYL = Talk to you later
TTFN = Tata for now
TAW = Teachers are watching
TDTM = Talk dirty to me
TM = Trust Me
TMI = Too much information
TT = Big tease
TYVM = Thank you very much

U = You
U UP? = Are you up?
UR = You are or Your

WTF = What the fuck
WYFM = Will you fuck me?
WYRN = What’s your real name
WYCM = Will you call me

XOX = Kiss Hug Kiss
XTC = Ecstacy

Y = Yes or Why?
YDKM = You don’t know me
YIWGP = Yes, I will go private
YW = You’re welcome

ADDITIONAL INFORMATION

“Age Sex Location” translates to: “I want to know if you fit my age of attraction, if you are the gender I want, and where you live so I can find you” when texted by a predator. It’s okay to tell the age and if you’re a female or male – this establishes evidence if a predator later claims not to know he/she was talking to a minor. But it is NO ONE’S business where you live. If you want to state the country, that’s fine, but not even naming a state is okay.

“Change subject/No text/No reply necessary” can be used to signal the other person that they are being watched.

“Come right back” or terms like “What took you so long?” or anything that makes the child feel rushed or obligated to respond is a warning sign of control, either by a predator or a peer. They should know they are under NO obligation to text/IM/E-mail anyone at any time, unless it is their parents. Anyone who makes them feel they have to report in should be left alone and exposed to parents or teachers immediately. This is a very unhealthy, controlling relationship. Even if it’s just a friend.

“Dear Friend” is not acceptable for an adult to tell a child. “Dear Wife/Husband” when said by a teen is a warning sign of a relationship that has gotten way out of hand, particularly if it is with an adult.

“DL” Down low means keep it secret/private. Downloading is a dangerous thing to do with people someone doesn’t know or trust. Kids should always know the risks involved in downloading something from another person, particularly someone they only know online. These can contain viruses, Trojans, worms, or even unsolicited pornography. Any of this activity can be brought the attention of law enforcement, particularly if anyone sends your child or teen a nude photograph – wanted or not, which can be considered a felony (depending upon the circumstances and evidence, plea bargaining etc…) when it is from an adult to a minor. (See Sexting for more of my thoughts on teen – to – teen behavior.)

“Do you masturbate/scream loud?” and any other personal questions regarding sex are no one’s business! Teens should understand that no one has the right to inquire such things, and if they do, they are to be ignored immediately and reported to a parent, teacher, and ultimately the police, whether the sender is known or not. Such questions are geared toward having a sexual relationship, and should be viewed as a serious threat.

“Do you have a boyfriend/girlfriend?” when asked by a stranger online is intrusive and should be ignored. “I’m sorry but that’s really none of your business,” would be the appropriate response. A teen may think it’s innocent curiosity, but they do not know who is asking that question. It is highly inappropriate for an adult to inquire that of a minor who they do not know, and if this is an online personality, there is no way the teen knows if this is an adult or an adult pretending to be a teen. The reason for an adult to ask this of a minor is because that adult wants to be that minor’s bf/gf. Even if the teen says yes, this will not dissuade the adult predator, only let him/her know the teen may be sexually active and they need only find a way to come between her/him and the real life bf/gf.

“Friend of a friend” translates to: I Am A Stranger!

“Friends with benefits,” “Fuck buddy,” and similar are exactly what they sound like.

“Face to face” means the person wants to meet offline.

“Got a pic” – kids/teens should NEVER share their photos with anyone they don’t know. They can never get them back and they never know who is doing the asking or for what purpose.

“In front” or “In back” refer to sexual positions.

“Is it tight” refers to a girl’s vagina/virginity.

“I love you” is never okay for a stranger to tell a teen/child, or vice versa.

“Parent/Mom/Teacher/Kid in room” is a sure sign there is something that NEEDS to be monitored. Adults have to remember THEY pay the bills and the child is THEIR responsibility. By “respecting a child’s privacy,” you are hanging a sign around your child’s neck saying, “Do what you want – I will completely ignore your sexual advances and illegal behavior that will ruin my child’s life forever.”

“Private” means that no one else can see the conversation, like if they were in a chat room. If it’s in an IM that is being monitored, this could also refer to private e-mails that no one else can read.

“Real life” refers to offline life, so if someone wants to meet IRL (in real life), they want to take their relationship from cyberspace into the real world for physical contact.

“Roll playing games” on the internet more often than not involve online sex, and are highly addictive and emotional since the characters get to act out their deepest fantasies. RPG’s almost always result in offline meetings when kids or teens are involved. It’s a grooming tactic, a way for predators to help their victim become comfortable with sex. Please don’t confuse this with real games out there that involve taking over castles or defeating enemy armies. Use your judgment when you see you child engaged in a RPG, but remember that games which allow interaction with other gamers are just as dangerous if not more than chatting with strangers. Gamers become close friends online, and this is a way for a predator to form a tight bond with the target.

“What’s your real name?” and other questions asking address, private contact information, phone number etc.. are red light questions that someone is trying to get personal information to use in a way neither you nor your child will want.

“XTC” is a drug.

“XOX” is as we all know the symbols for kisses (x) and hugs (o); however, this has no place in the conversation between an adult and a minor.

“Take off your clothes,” and “Get naked on cam” etc… Sexually explicit dialogue is NEVER okay, not even teen-to-teen, and should be ignored immediately and reported to parents, teachers, and most importantly, police. What happens on text always has the potential of happening in real life, especially if the person is known to the teen. If the person is a predator, this could lead up to abduction and rape.

Code can be and is often used in sentences, as well:
“W4nt 2 go 2 the m411 t0d4y?” translates to: “Want to go to the mall today?”

To some, this list and the translations may seem reaching or even as the old adage goes: Seek and ye shall find, meaning if you’re looking for something bad, you’ll see it even if it’s not there. This, simply, is not the case here. These codes and their meanings are quite popular and no secret at all. I, myself, have used some of these codes in adult conversations. Those of us who use them know quite well what we mean when we say them, and we know minors have no business using them and no adult has any right using them with a minor.

Makes me want to rally watch what letters I am typing while I text for sure, lol. 🙂

I cannot take the credit for all this information. I wanted to bring it to your attention becasue of Alice Day April 25th coming up. The website is Ultimate Evil and it is a Child Abuse Awareness Site. I have listed the web address above.

The website also talks about correct Wiccan rituals that are being altered and other rituals being used to molest even more children. Yes it happens in all religions so no one is exempt.

WATCH YOUR CHILDREN

Music teacher who “dared” pupil to send indecent images jailed for 22 months

Published January 21, 2013 by misty534

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A MUSIC teacher from Bletchley who groomed a pupil he had taught for seven years, “dared” her to send him indecent images, and sent her pictures and videos of him performing sex acts on himself has been jailed for 22 months.

 

Father-of-two Philip Cunningham, of Martinique Meadows, had the then 14-year-old’s mobile number to arrange lessons and exchanged some 6,000 texts with her, which became increasingly inappropriate.

On Friday Northampton Crown Court heard that as the exchanges escalated, Cunningham gave his victim a thong in a Christmas card and asked her to send him a picture of her wearing it.

The court was also told 40-year-old Cunningham attempted to put some of the blame on his victim, saying she had a “persistent nature”.

In an impact statement, the victim said the ordeal had a “profound psychological effect” on her.

The court was told Cunningham was a self-employed teacher who taught at schools across Northamptonshire.

The matter came to light when a friend of the victim confided in her mother about it, and she told the school.

Michael Magee, prosecuting, said: “The defendant had the victim’s mobile number in order to make contact to organise lessons. The texts became gradually more flirtatious and inappropriate.

“The defendant described a number of ‘dares’ to send a photo of herself naked. At Christmas 2011 he presented her with a card with a thong in it, which he dared her to wear in a lesson, take a picture of her wearing it, and sent it to him.

“He increasingly developed this position of trust and groomed her.”

Simon Hunka, mitigating, said: “This is a very sad set of circumstances for every single person involved in this. He does not seek to blame her.

“He is not in any way what some people may call a predator. He is absolutely not the type of person to be seeking out children to commit offences of this nature.

“He has come to the conclusion that there is something wrong in his mind.”

Sentencing Cunningham, Judge Rupert Mayo said: “Teachers must guard against any relationships becoming inappropriate. There must be a sacred trust and that has been broken.

“Only a sentence of immediate custody can be justified. What you did was manipulate this child so she would do what you asked.

“You know you should have stopped yourself from doing what you did, but you didn’t.”

Speaking outside court, the victim’s father said: “As a dad I don’t think you can ever be totally satisfied, but we have to take whatever we can from it.

“I don’t know what could ever appease parents in that situation, but I am satisfied it has been made clear who he is and what he is, and that he has been dealt with.”

Cunningham will be made to sign the sex offenders’ register, and will remain on it for 10 years.

He admitted charges of making and possessing indecent images of children between October 1, 2011 and January 13, 2012.

By Milton Keynes Citizen

 

 

Music teacher who groomed pupil and “dared” her to send indecent images jailed for 22 months

Published January 18, 2013 by misty534

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A music teacher who groomed a pupil he had taught for seven years, “dared” her to send him indecent images, and sent her pictures and videos of him performing sex acts on himself has been jailed for 22 months.

 

Father-of-two Philip Cunningham had the then 14-year-old’s mobile number to arrange lessons and exchanged some 6,000 texts with her, which became increasingly inappropriate.

Northampton Crown Court heard today that as the exchanges escalated, Cunningham gave his victim a thong in a Christmas card and asked her to send him a picture of her wearing it.

The court was also told 40-year-old Cunningham attempted to put some of the blame on his victim, saying she had a “persistent nature”.

In an impact statement, the victim said the ordeal had a “profound psychological effect” on her.

The court was told Cunningham was a self-employed teacher who taught at schools across Northamptonshire, including Northampton.

The matter came to light when a friend of the victim confided in her mother about it, and she told the school.

Michael Magee, prosecuting, said: “The defendant had the victim’s mobile number in order to make contact to organise lessons. The texts became gradually more flirtatious and inappropriate.

“The defendant described a number of ‘dares’ to send a photo of herself naked. At Christmas 2011 he presented her with a card with a thong in it, which he dared her to wear in a lesson, take a picture of her wearing it, and sent it to him.

“He increasingly developed this position of trust and groomed her.”

Simon Hunka, mitigating, said: “This is a very sad set of circumstances for every single person involved in this. He does not seek to blame her.

“He is not in any way what some people may call a predator. He is absolutely not the type of person to be seeking out children to commit offences of this nature.

“He has come to the conclusion that there is something wrong in his mind.”

Sentencing Cunningham, Judge Rupert Mayo said: “Teachers must guard against any relationships becoming inappropriate. There must be a sacred trust and that has been broken.

“Only a sentence of immediate custody can be justified. What you did was manipulate this child so she would do what you asked.

“You know you should have stopped yourself from doing what you did, but you didn’t.”

Speaking to the Chron outside court, the victim’s father said: “As a dad I don’t think you can ever be totally satisfied, but we have to take whatever we can from it.

“I don’t know what could ever appease parents in that situation, but I am satisfied it has been made clear who he is and what he is, and that he has been dealt with.”

Cunningham, of Martinique Meadows, Bletchley will be made to sign the sex offenders’ register, and will remain on it for 10 years.

He admitted charges of making and possessing indecent images of children between October 1, 2011 and January 13, 2012.

Major police investigation centred on Wisbech will investigate possible child sexual exploitation

Published February 17, 2015 by misty534

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Det Supt Gary Ridgway

A major police operation has been set up in Wisbech to “proactively” investigate possible child sexual exploitation

Det Supt Gary Ridgway, head of the Cambridgeshire Police Protection Unit, said Operation Shade would build on two years of work.

Police had been faced with the choice of either “waiting passively for disclosures to be made to us or proactively going out and looking for disclosures. That is what Operation Shade is all about.”

In a joint operation with Cambridgeshire County Council, police have assembled a specialist team in Wisbech headed by a detective chief inspector, a detective sergeant and four specially selected female officers plus social services and youth workers.

Det Supt Ridgway said he had opted for female officers “because we have learnt that troubled teenagers need a bespoke response. We need officers who see them as victims and not to fall into the trap as seeing them as problem youngsters. Our team will not be distracted by stereotypes and they have the skills to communicate with difficult youngsters”.

He said the force – which has a recent history of successful prosecutions elsewhere in the county- had picked Wisbech “because we know we have systems in place and it is where we have new communities and what we trying to do is get ahead of the game.”

Det Supt Ridgway said: “Wisbech has good partnerships in terms of how we respond to community cohesion and it also has some challenges in respect of new communities where there might be hidden criminality around child sexual exploitation.”

He said its borders with both Norfolk and Lincolnshire “creates both opportunities and challenges”.

The police chief admitted “Wisbech is not unique as a market town but historically it has had issues around trafficking”. Police did not have infinite cash but Operation Shade had been made a priority “and we have committed quite a lot of resources to it. If you go in on a shoestring you run the risk of not getting anywhere”.

His team would particularly be looking for possible exploitation of mainly teenage girls – those predominantly in the 13-15 age bracket- but possible exploitation of young teenage boys was not ruled out.

Society, he said, had come to understand what child sexual exploitation is and one aspect of it could be associated with, for example, where young teenage girls developed relationships with older men.

There were, too, he said issues, for example, surrounding the “lone individual” who might make his house available for young people to visit and relax and maybe experiment with drugs and alcohol and then, later, abuse them.

Operation Shade would focus, too, on gang and group activity and what Det Supt Ridgway described as “the boyfriend model”.

He said; “Young people tend to go through a journey and although we are not making moral judgements what we are interested is exploitation and serious criminal offences”.

Police had found elsewhere that teenage girls with older boyfriends might be the beginning of exploitation if, for example, the relationship “becomes very controlling. “Then the boyfriends makes cynical efforts to isolate those young people from their family, the support mechanism breaks down before moving to exploitation involving those same young people being coerced or threatened to engage in sexual activity, sometimes with a number of men. We have seen this serious level of criminality elsewhere where young people are then subjected to serious gang rape activity”.

Det Supt Ridgway said: “I hope we don’t find that in Wisbech but we think it is such a serious issue we are prepared to look for it.”

He hoped people would recognise that parents saw Operation Shade “as not resting on our laurels waiting for this to happen but going out to find it. It doesn’t mean people in Wisbech are at a higher risk than anywhere else.”

The police were determined to go into Operation Shade with no preconceptions of which community or what people were possibly involved in child sexual exploitation.

“We don’t want to go down a cul-de-sac of thinking it is about a particular group- we will go where the young people tell us,” he said. “We want to engage with them- and for them to trust us with their experiences.”

One starting point, he said, might be looking for groups of men driving round streets trying to engage with young people. He had looked, too, at case studies from elsewhere where, for example, outside secondary schools three or four men might loiter.

Some might see this as the seeds of low level anti social behaviour “but there might be some sinister element so that is why we are trying to raise awareness”.

He urged people to “open your minds to the possibility of sexual exploitation” which could have life changing impacts on victims.

Parents needed to ensure they talked regularly with their teenage children and look for signs that might suggest possible exploitation. Look for unexplained changes in behaviour, lying about where they have been, experimenting with drugs or alcohol or receiving unexpected gifts.

Perpetrators, too, he said might try and come between the victim and their family- “trying to ensure they are the only source of comfort and care for that young person”.

John Elworthy

All the mad and dangerous views on Barrister Barbara Hewson’s words on Operation Yewtree and child abuse

Published January 17, 2015 by misty534

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BARBARA Hewson is a barrister. She was awarded an honorary fellowship of the University of Westminster for services to law. On the website of her employers, Hardwicke, we learn:

Amongst her many achievements, her citation referred to her work for equality for women at the Bar and in helping found the Association of Women Barristers; her championing of the rights of pregnant women to refuse medical treatment (R(S) v Collins, St George’s Health Care NHS Trust & Anr [1999] Fam 26); and her work defending home birth midwives’ right to practise, in both Ireland and England.

She fought to prove that Gareth Oates, an autistic 18-year-old who killed himself in front of a train, “had been neglected by many agencies”. She has written about family courts and how the State can abuse to vulnerable.

She has a particular interest in reproductive rights, and was the first member of the Bar to receive the Lawyer’s ‘Barrister of the Year’ Award, for her pioneering work opposing court-ordered treatment of pregnant women.

Hewson has a record of speaking truth to power.  So. What do we make of her views on Operation Yewtree, the Met’s investigation of historical sex abuse sparked by revelations on Sir Jimmy Savile?

Hewson writes in Spiked:

I do not support the persecution of old men. The manipulation of the rule of law by the Savile Inquisition – otherwise known as Operation Yewtree – and its attendant zealots poses a far graver threat to society than anything Jimmy Savile ever did.

And with that a media shitstorm erupted:

Now even a deputy speaker of the House of Commons is accused of male rape. This is an unfortunate consequence of the present mania for policing all aspects of personal life under the mantra of ‘child protection’.

We have been here before. England has a long history of do-gooders seeking to stamp out their version of sexual misconduct by force of the criminal law. In the eighteenth century, the quaintly named Society for the Reformation of Manners funded prosecutions of brothels, playwrights and gay men.

In the 1880s, the Social Purity movement repeatedly tried to increase the age of consent for girls from 13 to 16, despite parliament’s resistance. At that time, puberty for girls was at age 15 (now it is 10). The movement’s supporters portrayed women as fragile creatures needing protection from men’s animal impulses. Their efforts were finally rewarded after the maverick editor of the Pall Mall Gazette, WT Stead, set up his own secret commission to expose the sins of those in high places.

After procuring a 13-year-old girl, Stead ran a lurid exposé of the sex industry, memorably entitled ‘The Maiden Tribute of Modern Babylon’. His voyeuristic accounts under such titles as ‘Strapping girls down’ and ‘Why the cries of the victims are not heard’ electrified the Victorian public. The ensuing moral panic resulted in the age of consent being raised in 1885, as well as the criminalisation of gross indecency between men.

By contrast, the goings-on at the BBC in past decades are not a patch on what Stead exposed. Taking girls to one’s dressing room, bottom pinching and groping in cars hardly rank in the annals of depravity with flogging and rape in padded rooms. Yet the Victorian narrative of innocents despoiled by nasty men endures.

What is strikingly different today is how Britain’s law-enforcement apparatus has been infiltrated by moral crusaders, like the National Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Children (NSPCC) and the National Association for People Abused in Childhood (NAPAC). Both groups take part in Operation Yewtree, which looks into alleged offences both by and not by Savile.

These pressure groups have a vested interest in universalising the notion of abuse, making it almost as prevalent as original sin, but with the modern complication that it carries no possibility of redemption, only ‘survival’. The problem with this approach is that it makes abuse banal, and reduces the sympathy that we should feel for victims of really serious assaults (1).

But the most remarkable facet of the Savile scandal is how adult complainants are invited to act like children. Hence we have witnessed the strange spectacle of mature adults calling a children’s charity to complain about the distant past.

The NSPCC and the Metropolitan Police Force produced a joint report into Savile’s alleged offending in January 2013, called Giving Victims a Voice. It states: ‘The volume of the allegations that have been made, most of them dating back many years, has made this an unusual and complex inquiry. On the whole victims are not known to each other [sic] and taken together their accounts paint a compelling picture of widespread sexual abuse by a predatory sex offender. We are therefore referring to them as “victims” rather than “complainants” and are not presenting the evidence they have provided as unproven allegations [italics added].’ The report also states that ‘more work still needs to be done to ensure that the vulnerable feel that the scales of justice have been rebalanced’.

Note how the police and NSPCC assume the roles of judge and jury. What neither acknowledges is that this national trawl for historical victims was an open invitation to all manner of folk to reinterpret their experience of the past as one of victimisation (2).

The acute problems of proof which stale allegations entail also generates a demand that criminal courts should afford accusers therapy, by giving them ‘a voice’. This function is far removed from the courts’ traditional role, in which the state must prove defendants guilty beyond reasonable doubt.

What this infantilising of adult complainants ultimately requires is that we re-model our criminal-justice system on child-welfare courts. These courts (as I have written in spiked previously) have for some decades now applied a model of therapeutic jurisprudence, in which ‘the best interests of the child’ are paramount.

It is depressing, but true, that many reforms introduced in the name of child protection involve sweeping attacks on fundamental Anglo-American legal rights and safeguards, such as the presumption of innocence. This has ominous consequences for the rule of law, as US judge Arthur Christean pointed out: ‘Therapeutic jurisprudence marks a major and in many ways a truly radical shift in the historic function of courts of law and the basic purpose for which they have been established under our form of government. It also marks a fundamental shift in judges’ loyalty away from principles of due process and toward particular social policies. These policies are less concerned with judicial impartiality and fair hearings and more concerned with achieving particular results…’

The therapeutic model has certain analogies with a Soviet-style conception of justice, which emphasises outcomes over processes. It’s not difficult, then, to see why some celebrity elderly defendants, thrust into the glare of hostile publicity, including Dalek-style utterances from the police (‘offenders have nowhere to hide’), may conclude that resistance is useless. But the low-level misdemeanours with which Stuart Hall was charged are nothing like serious crime.

Touching a 17-year-old’s breast, kissing a 13-year-old, or putting one’s hand up a 16-year-old’s skirt, are not remotely comparable to the horrors of the Ealing Vicarage assaults and gang rape, or the Fordingbridge gang rape and murders, both dating from 1986. Anyone suggesting otherwise has lost touch with reality.

Ordinarily, Hall’s misdemeanors would not be prosecuted, and certainly not decades after the event. What we have here is the manipulation of the British criminal-justice system to produce scapegoats on demand. It is a grotesque spectacle.

It’s interesting that two complainants who waived anonymity have told how they rebuffed Hall’s advances. That is, they dealt with it at the time. Re-framing such experiences, as one solicitor did, as a ‘horrible personal tragedy’ is ironic, given that tragoidia means the fall of an honourable, worthy and important protagonist.

It’s time to end this prurient charade, which has nothing to do with justice or the public interest. Adults and law-enforcement agencies must stop fetishising victimhood. Instead, we should focus on arming today’s youngsters with the savoir-faire and social skills to avoid drifting into compromising situations, and prosecute modern crime. As for law reform, now regrettably necessary, my recommendations are: remove complainant anonymity; introduce a strict statute of limitations for criminal prosecutions and civil actions; and reduce the age of consent to 13.

Right, then. What reactions did that get?

Daily Mail: “Outrage at barrister who called Stuart Hall’s crimes ‘low level’”

Miss Hewson, who is an abortion rights specialist, said the arrests of Rolf Harris, Dave Lee Travis, Jim Davidson and Max Clifford were driven by the need to produce ‘scapegoats on demand’.
But Susan Harrison, 61, who was indecently assaulted by Hall when she was 16, said it was wrong to make light of his crimes.

‘To call them low-level misdemeanours is not only incredibly hurtful to all the victims it is also utterly ridiculous,’ she said. ‘I don’t think Miss Hewson understands what it is like to be on the receiving end of this kind of abuse from a man who is trusted by your family and by society as a whole. What he did to me went on to ruin my life and I am still dealing with the aftermath now and to call it low level is just offensive.’

Alan Collins, of Pannone Solicitors, which represents many of Savile’s and 83-year-old Hall’s victims, called her comments ‘crazy’ and ‘ignorant’.

And worse still:

Hardwicke Chambers, where she is a junior barrister, expressed shock and said they were investigating.

The Mail then ads for reason not entirely clear:

Miss Hewson, 52,  lives in a £1million home in Islington, North London…

India Knight (Times):

I care, actually. I am uncomfortable with people’s names being bandied about before they are charged, and uncomfortable with the McCarthyite vigour with which those names are offered up to the public’s slavering maws, though, of course, the counter-argument is that naming names helps other victims come forward. I am also uncomfortable with the question of proof decades after an alleged event. But I care a lot.

Last week a high-profile barrister called Barbara Hewson wrote an article that called for the age of consent to be lowered to 13, on the basis that some of the Yewtree crimes were “low-level” and led only to “the persecution of old men”. What this amounted to, she wrote, was “the manipulation of the British criminal justice system to produce scapegoats on demand. It is a grotesque spectacle.”

Hewson got both barrels for her article (which you can read at spiked-online.com), but the piece put forward a reasoned and intelligent argument. I know from conversations I’ve had that many people agree with her on the “low-level” front, if not the age of consent part; and I know that many people think that some of the women coming forward are opportunistic, in it for the money and possibly either exaggerating or lying outright.

I strongly disagree with Hewson, though I can understand why she makes some of the points that she does. And despite the outrage her remarks have provoked, she speaks for more people than her detractors imagine (I’m ignoring the age of consent part because it’s just mad — a rapist’s charter).

Peter Watt, director of the NSPCC helpline:

These outdated and simply ill-informed views would be shocking to hear from anyone but to hear them from a highly experienced barrister simply beggars belief. Stuart Hall has pleaded guilty to abusing children as young as nine years old, we think most people would agree that crimes of this nature are incredibly serious. Thankfully the law, and most people, are very clear on this matter. To minimise and trivialise the impact of these offences for victims in this way is all but denying that they have in fact suffered abuse at all. Any suggestion of lowering the age of consent could put more young people at risk from those who prey on vulnerable young people.”

Hardwicke Chambers:

We are shocked by the views expressed in Barbara Hewson’s article in Spiked (8 May 2013).

We did not see or approve the article pre-publication and we completely dissociate ourselves from its content and any related views she may have expressed via social media or any other media outlets.

Fleet Street Fox (Daily Mirror):

But there is a third option if we want to rid the world of paedophiles. It would be easier, and quicker, but it would take a bit of selling to the voters.

We could legalise it.

She quotes Hewson. Then:

We could do all that, but we probably won’t on the basis that it’s ABSOLUTELY BARKING MAD. If we have a time limit on some of the most serious crimes it’s possible to commit, we’ll need one on everything. Nazi war criminals? Oh, forget them. Genocidal Serbs? Too long ago. Fred West? Look, it was the 1970s, things were different then.

If we lower the age of consent we’ll be making adulthood happen faster. Sex at 13, driving at 14, let ‘em vote and marry and pay taxes and leave school and oh look at that, it’s the 19th century again. And anyone who goes to the police or their teacher with a complaint of sexual abuse will have their name and face plastered on posters all over the neighbourhood under the phrase ‘STUPID CHILD’.

There would be no rapists, no paedophiles, no victims, and the police could get back to the important business of arresting journalists who’ve embarrassed the rich and powerful.

The long-term effect would be that the TV presenters, dirty old men, perverts, and local oddballs of the future would be the only people to go unmolested…

When I was 13 I had thick NHS specs, braces, acne and a mullet. I communicated by slamming doors and overdoing the eyeliner.

Sex was not only the last thing on my mind, it was terrifying and utterly impossible. I couldn’t consent to being looked at, never mind anything more.

Yet as bonkers as all this sounds someone has suggested it.

Barrister Barbara Hewson says Operation Yewtree is akin to the Spanish Inquisition, that do-gooders tackling child abuse is similar to making homosexuality illegal, and that ‘low-level misdemeanours’ such as those Stuart Hall confessed to last week should not be prosecuted.

Except no-one is burning paedophiles alive, paedophilia is nowhere near the same as sexual activity between consenting adults, and Stuart Hall did not just touch someone’s bum.

He confessed to assaulting girls aged nine to 17 in a variety of ways, some minor and some more serious. Not a single one of them consented to it, regardless of whether they were legally able to.

One told how ‘ I was never aroused, so there was a lot of blood’ .

Eilis O’Hanlon (Irish Indy):

There must have been people who felt uneasy as Operation Yewtree, set up initially to investigate crimes committed by the late paedophile Jimmy Savile, transmuted into a sort of big-game hunt, with TV stars instead of elephants as targets – but they said nothing, because to show any doubts about the conduct of the investigation is to invite accusations of belittling child abuse…

…the vehemence of the reaction against Barbara Hewson demonstrates that she was certainly right to compare the public mood around this issue to a witch-hunt, since it is in the nature of witch-hunts to not only shout down opposition, but also to attack what you think someone said, or what you wish they’d said, rather than what they did say.

Some of the more hysterical reactions to Hewson’s Spiked article even said that she was trying to protect child abusers from prosecution, or that she was blaming victims for not being streetwise enough to resist rapists, which is crazy.

All she said was that it is important to draw distinctions between acts we morally disapprove of and those which are actually criminal.

Rape Crisis England & Wales:

Rape Crisis (England and Wales) is shocked and deeply concerned by the offensive, ill-informed and damaging on-line article from barrister Barbara Hewson regarding Operation Yewtree.

Her opening assertion – that ongoing legal investigations pose a ‘far graver threat to society’ than a prominent public figure who raped and sexually assaulted women and children across decades – suggests a cynical attempt to self-publicise by generating controversy for its own sake. This impression is supported by all the comments that follow in the rest of the article.

From the range of objectionable points Ms Hewson makes, Rape Crisis is particularly concerned by her apparent attack on and dismissal of the experiences of adult survivors of childhood sexual abuse. This betrays not only a complete lack of empathy but also an ignorance of the long-term impacts of sexual violence that is particularly dangerous in a legal professional.

Of the 60,000 women and girls our Rape Crisis Centres provide specialist support to each year, over 60% have come to us because of an incident of sexual violence that happened more than three years ago and we know that around a third of those sexually abused as children reach adulthood without having told anyone about it. The women we work with tell us that prominent amongst the numerous reasons for this, as well as the power and control wielded by their abusers, are shame, self-blame and a fear of not being believed, all of which are perpetuated and reinforced by the kinds of views Ms Hewson so aggressively presents in her article.

In this context, Rape Crisis (England and Wales) also finds it incomprehensible that a legal professional would call for the removal of sexual violence victims’ right to lifelong anonymity. When we know that only around 15% of the estimated 85,000 women who are raped and 400,000 who are sexually assaulted in England and Wales every year ever report to the police, it is unjustifiable to suggest that adding to the stress and trauma of the experience for victims can do anything to improve levels of justice.

Another Angry Woman:

Let me tell you, Ms Hewson, victimhood is not something to be fetished or enjoyed. As many have already said your remarks represent the fear that all victims have of being disbelieved and the accusations of being attention seeking liars who enjoy victimhood. Abuse is something that haunts and damages you for the rest of your life, effects all the decisions you make, the friends and relationships you choose, the relationships with your family and how you feel about yourself. It will have you awake screaming & crying in the middle of the night, make you afraid of your own shadow and make you hate yourself and the body you live in. It can make you want to hurt yourself, cause resentment and anger towards others and makes it hard to trust anyone. Your remarks show just how much you, as a supposedly impartial party, know nothing about the experience of a victim.

I am one of the victims you seem to know so much about. I have twice been subjected to the selfish actions of a man, a family friend, in a position of power who wanted to rape a trusting little girl, initially aged just 11 and then 13, who didn’t understand what was going on…

I am still living with extreme feelings of worthlessness and the urge to hurt myself because of the damage sexual abuse has done to me…

Ms Hewson, the fact that you as an esteemed barrister in a position of authority see it fit to perpetuate the rape apologism and victim blaming that is already so prevalent in our society and prevents victims coming forward, speaks volumes about how out of touch you are and how little you understand about sexual abuse. It’s all very well from your privileged position to fire off soundbites about “fetishing victimhood” and “persecuting old men”, but you cannot even begin to understand how damaging, disrespectful and false those statements are.

Delusions of Candour:

I no longer work in the field of law enforcement but I believe that it is still the case that in order for charges to be brought the CPS must consider that they have a reasonable chance of obtaining a conviction. I agree that the media’s habit of gleefully naming every individual arrested as part of Yewtree is unpleasant and unnecessary, and perhaps gives credence to the suggestion that those accused of rape should also be granted anonymity. However this is no reason for stripping rape complainants of their right to anonymity.

Ms Hewson continues “It’s time to end this prurient charade, which has nothing to do with justice or the public interest. Adults and law-enforcement agencies must stop fetishising victimhood. Instead, we should focus on arming today’s youngsters with the savoir-faire and social skills to avoid drifting into compromising situations, and prosecute modern crime.”. It’s almost as though she’s claiming that with the right skills and knowledge sexual predators can be avoided – a common theme of victim-blaming. But as a barrister surely Ms Hewson knows that rape and sexual assault is never the fault of the victim? I agree that young people should be taught what is and isn’t acceptable in terms of sexual behaviour but that in no way means that assault can be avoided if one has the appropriate “social skills”.

Although Ms Hewson’s article has moments where it is interesting and thought-provoking it is also ill-considered and her employers, Hardwicke Chambers, have been quick to distance themselves from it. It is a shame that this article seems likely to overshadow her reputation as a passionate advocate for abortion rights and her opposition to the court-ordered treatment of pregnant women. I hope that Ms Hewson’s views aren’t widely shared among her fellow legal professionals; meanwhile I imagine there are few victims of sexual assault or rape who would want her in their courtroom.

Hewson says critics have called for her to be raped.

by ANORAK

‘I have been to the depths of hell’: How one woman overcame post-traumatic stress disorder caused by sexual abuse

Published November 30, 2014 by misty534

Trina Smith suffered from eating disorders and tried to commit suicide after being sexually abused as a four-year-old

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Trina Smith has been to “the depths of hell” while suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder caused by years of sexual abuse she suffered as a child.

She was just four years old when the devastating abuse that later triggered years of eating disorders, self-harm and suicide attempts began, turning her life upside down.

“The eating disorders started when I was in my teens, even before I began to get really unwell,” she recalled.

“I had anorexia and bulimia and at one stage, I weighed five and a half stone. I started taking laxatives, which meant my body was trying to purge itself of something that wasn’t there.”

Trina was in and out of hospital from the age of 19 and was misdiagnosed with borderline personality disorder.

“I ended up spending a long time in psychiatric hospitals,” she said. “When I was about 20, I spent a whole year in hospital – it was horrendous.

“I had a lot of treatment, but I was being treated for the wrong thing.”

Her condition worsened when she gave birth to her first son at the age of 24.

“It seemed to go in cycles. I would be unwell and then I would get better for a while, but then I would relapse,” she explained.

Trina and her husband Christian, a sergeant in the RAF, moved to Ammanford in 2010, which provoked another relapse.

She visited the community mental health team, who finally diagnosed her with complex post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).

Following the diagnosis, Trina was offered eye movement desensitisation and reprocessing therapy.

The treatment, which is approved by NICE and the World Health Organisation, is widely used to help soldiers suffering from the condition formerly known as “shell shock”.

“I was sceptical, but at that point I had suffered for so many years, it was either give it a try or give up,” she said.

“I had been spending five days a week in therapy, but nothing was working.”

Trina was particularly anxious about the impact her condition would have on her two sons – Kyle, who is now 17, Aaron, 10.

“My husband has stuck by me all the way through, but I was feeling guilty, worrying I was going to pass it on to the kids,” she said.

“I decided to give the treatment a go and if it did not work, I did not want to be here. I had already taken many an overdose to try and end it.”

The technique uses side-to-side eye movements to help people recover from traumatic memories. It is thought to help process distressing thoughts in a similar way to rapid eye movement during sleep.

“I thought it seemed a bit weird and I was apprehensive, but they gave me a lot of information and I have never looked back since,” she said.

“When I started the therapy, it was really hard. It lasted for about a year because of the extent of the abuse I had been through as a child.”

The mum-of-two went through every single memory and reprocessed it during the treatment.

“With PTSD, it is like your memories are in the here and now,” she explained. “I had every emotion and every feeling I had felt when I was five years old.

“About six months in, I started to notice a difference. The memories we had worked on were still there, but they were just memories with no emotional effect.”

Trina, who is now 38, is now able to think about the past and cope, without dwelling on it.

“For a couple of days after the session, it was difficult because the memory was at the forefront of my mind,” she recalled.

“But my therapist was always at the end of the phone and generally, I could go along the next week and speak about the memory with no emotional effect.

“We went through the memories one after the other until there were none left.”

Before the treatment, Trina was not able to look at photographs of herself as a child, but now, she can look through an album comfortably.

She also used to avoid seeing her seven-year-old niece.

“She looks so much like I did as a child, it was too painful,” she said.

“But I saw her this summer and I was able to pick her up and hug her. It just felt different.”

Trina is now training as a mental health nurse and is currently completing a placement on an acute ward in Carmarthen.

“I was nursed by so many different people and had some awful experiences, but there were some really good nurses. I want to be like those few who gave me time and wanted to be with me, they helped me and gave me hope,” she said.

“I always felt like I needed a reason for what happened. Now I feel I have found that reason – to be able to help others who have been unwell. It makes so much difference being able to empathise and know I have felt what they are feeling.

“After 15 years of going to the depths of hell, I can finally do something positive.”

For more information, visit emdrassociation.org.uk

Liz Day

Charlotte Leslie MP: The child abuse inquiry should be statutory

Published November 10, 2014 by misty534

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Charlotte Leslie is a member of the Health Select Committee and MP for Bristol North West.

“The Times they are a-changing” sang Bob Dylan in 1964. It seems they haven’t stopped. As the age of deference dies, and pillars of the establishment come crumbling down, dark secrets are being revealed that had been festering in sordid silence.

Few of these revelations are more horrific than the child-abuse scandal that erupted as the truth about Jimmy Saville emerged. I look back on my untainted childhood and feel humbled and lucky that it was so, because the abuse of a child is probably the starkest, foulest illustration of the dynamics of abuse.

Abuse is about power – of one individual over another. It is about the power of the abuser to strip away everything that gives the abused their identity, to break them inside, so that there is nothing left of the person there once was, but a little heap of rubble. That little heap of rubble of a person will then be made to believe anything by the abuser; that they were “asking for it”, that they “deserve” it, that it’s all “their fault’.  The abuser is often very good at making themselves out to be the victim, and inflicting the abused with guilt – anyone who has suffered domestic abuse will know this. And the shock of all this is that abuse can happen to anybody; it can happen to the strongest, cleverest, most popular person you know.

That is the direct abuse. The aftermath is the second act of abuse. The abused will be so programmed to think they “deserve” it that they will often find that they go back to abuse, because it is at least a pattern they know. That broken little heap of rubble does not just “fix” when the source of the abuse is removed. The human brain is very quick to remove facts that are too awful to know, or don’t fit in with its required perceived order of the world – from out of its mental operational zone to the mental trash can. But that mental trash can does not get emptied with a click like that you can make on your computer. The reality that the brain has carefully buried and hidden festers, goes septic, and poisons the abused person’s life.

It can manifest in all sorts of ways: self-harm, addiction – to work, or alcohol or drugs; it can and will ruin future relationships  and family relationships, as the abused seeks to repeat the programmed pattern of abuse, and finds that they cannot trust anyone and are afraid of intimacy. Even if the abused has had the ability to tear themselves away from their abuser, the abused must sometimes still live with the legacy – can still feel the abuser has power over them, even if, like Saville, the abuser is dead.

Last month, the superb charity The Southmead Project organised a seminar on child sex abuse. (CSA).  The Southmead Project helps those who have been abused in coming to terms with what has happened to them, and turning that little pile of broken rubble into something whole and strong again. It is a long process. The mind is not like a bone, it mends slowly and dreadfully painfully. We heard from survivors of child abuse, and what they wanted from the child abuse Inquiry.

Very simply, they wanted a properly independent inquiry, with teeth. Given that some of very senior figures, embedded at the heart of the establishment, may be potentially implicated, those teeth must be exceptionally sharp, and very long.

Last week, Theresa May put the inquiry back on track; There will be a panel on the Inquiry, so that one individual isn’t depended upon to drive it. Survivors will be deeply involved in shaping the Inquiry. A new chair, who meets the difficult criteria of being a top legal brain whilst also not having any contact with “The Establishment’” is to be found. The panel start working in the meantime.

This is all good, and demonstrates an appetite for pursuing this horrific injustice, wherever it may lead. But one thing remains that puzzles and me, and concerns survivors.

The Inquiry is not statutory from the start. Theresa May gave reassurance that it will have every potential of becoming statutory if the new chair requests this to be so. That is good. Given that anyone with anything to hide will do almost anything in order to hide it, especially if they are an influential figure, you would think that the ability to compel witnesses to give evidence under oath would be absolutely fundamental to such an inquiry.

How else is it supposed to operate? “Dear Mister Establishment. We have questions about you and child abuse. Will you answer them?” “No.”  “Oh, okay then.”

There would have to be questions over the suitability and motivation of any Chair who does not request that the inquiry be statutory – and given we’ve got through two already, we certainly don’t want this to happen.

Statutory Inquiries cost a lot of money, and take a long time, and so the Prime Minister has historically not granted many.  However, an issue like this is surely what the statutory inquiry process is for.  What is more, it would be symbolic of our willingness to hold the Establishment to account, to say to those abusers who think they are untouchable because they have power: “No, you are not.  You have no power. We have taken it away from you”.

If the new Chair instantly makes the inquiry statutory, we can put the previous delays behind us. But it would be so much better if it were statutory from the start. And anyone who still wants to cover-up abuse with the shield of establishment should have a listen to Bob. “For he who gets hurt will be he who has stalled, for the times they are a changing.”

If you would like to support the Southmead Project, go to www.southmeadproject.org.uk.

Home Secretary’s oral statement on child abuse inquiry

Published November 3, 2014 by misty534

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The Home Secretary has made the below oral statement in the House of Commons

With permission, Mr Speaker, I would like to make a statement on the independent panel inquiry into child abuse, which has been established to consider whether institutions in England and Wales have taken seriously their duty of care to protect children from sexual abuse.

The House will remember that in July, I made a statement in which I announced my intention to establish the panel inquiry. I did so because of the growing evidence of organised child sexual abuse, conducted over many years, and serious allegations about the failure of some of our most important institutions to protect children from this disgusting crime.

I established a panel inquiry because it is the best way of making sure that the inquiry is conducted by a team of experts with empathy and sensitivity to the feelings of the survivors of child abuse. The fact that it is a panel consisting of several people means it has within it more expertise than any one person could offer. And importantly, the public can have extra confidence in the integrity of its work, because no one individual can take important decisions or come to judgements alone.

The members of the panel – Sharon Evans, Ivor Frank, Dame Moira Gibb, Barbara Hearn, Professor Jenny Pearce, Dru Sharpling, Professor Terence Stephenson and Graham Wilmer – are in place, and they are supported by Ben Emmerson QC, who is counsel to the inquiry, and Professor Alexis Jay, who is the panel’s expert adviser. The panel therefore consists of members with a broad range of experience and skills. They have backgrounds in social care, academia, law enforcement, healthcare, the media and the voluntary sector and some have experienced sexual abuse themselves as children. I believe that the panel can command the confidence of the public and, most importantly, of the survivors of child abuse.

The House will know, however, that on Friday, the panel’s chairman, Fiona Woolf, announced her intention to resign. She did so because, as she wrote in her letter to me, “it has become clear that the inquiry,” if she continued to chair it, “would not have the widespread victim support it so desperately deserves and needs.”

Mr Speaker, Fiona Woolf’s resignation of course follows the resignation of the panel’s first chairman, the noble and learned Lady, Baroness Butler-Sloss. Both women, I do believe, had strong credentials to chair the inquiry.

Baroness Butler-Sloss was the first female Lord Justice of Appeal, she was the President of the Family Division of the High Court, and she chaired the Cleveland child abuse inquiry. Fiona Woolf is a leading lawyer and a former President of the Law Society. But for different – and in the end, understandable – reasons, both Baroness Butler-Sloss and Fiona Woolf concluded that they did not command the confidence of survivors.

Almost four months after I announced my intention to establish a panel inquiry, it is obviously very disappointing that that we do not yet have a panel chairman and for that I want to tell survivors that I am sorry.

To put it bluntly, Mr Speaker, it will not be straightforward to find a chairman who has both the expertise to do this hugely important work and has had no contact at all with an institution or an individual about whom people have concerns. I still believe, however, it is possible to find somebody who is suitably qualified and can win the confidence of survivors, so I want to turn now to what I plan to do to recruit a new chairman.

I myself will hold meetings with representatives of the survivors of child abuse, starting next week. I have already had a number of discussions with the Members of Parliament who have campaigned for an inquiry into child abuse – the Hon Members for Birmingham Yardley, Brighton Pavilion, East Worthing and Shoreham, Richmond Park, Rochdale, Wells, and West Bromwich East – and I will continue to have discussions with them. I will also discuss the appointment of the new panel chairman with the Shadow Home Secretary and the Rt Hon Member for Leicester East. And I have already agreed with the Rt Hon Member for Leicester East that the nominated panel chairman will attend a pre-confirmation hearing before the Home Affairs Select Committee.

In the meantime, the panel will go about its important work. So I can tell the House that the panel will hold its first meeting on Wednesday, 12 November, and will meet every Wednesday thereafter until Christmas. The panel will organise other meetings that will discuss the different themes and issues covered by the inquiry and attendance for these meetings – for both panel members and expert witnesses – will be set accordingly.

In addition, the panel secretariat is planning two regional events that will be held before Christmas and another four that will be held in the new year. These regional events will provide an early opportunity for survivors to give their views about how the panel should go about its work.

One matter that I know has been raised by some campaigners is whether the inquiry should become a statutory inquiry. The inquiry as it is constituted at present – like the inquiries into Hillsborough and the murder of Daniel Morgan – is a non-statutory inquiry. I have already said that the panel will have access to all government papers, reviews and reports it requests, and subject to the constraints imposed by any criminal investigations, it will be free to call witnesses from any organisation it deems appropriate. But, as I said to the House in July, I want to make it clear that – if the panel chairman deems it necessary – the Government is prepared to convert it into a full statutory inquiry in line with the Inquiries Act.

Another matter that has been raised is the terms of reference for the inquiry. Some say the terms are too broad, while others say the terms are too narrow. I do not propose to narrow the terms of reference because to do that would risk missing out – in a fairly arbitrary manner – some important institutions.

Likewise, I do not propose to extend the terms of reference to include Northern Ireland, Scotland or the Crown Dependencies. I will, however, discuss with the new panel chairman how we can make sure that the Hart Inquiry in Northern Ireland and the Oldham Inquiry in Jersey feed in to the panel to make sure that no information – and no institutions or individuals with a case to answer – can fall through the cracks.

I can also tell the House that the Government is considering ways of trying to make the experience of giving evidence less traumatic for survivors. The panel will therefore take evidence not just in public and private meetings but also remotely, with witnesses able to speak to panel members from their homes. The Secretariat to the Inquiry is also in discussions with officials in the Department of Health and other organisations to make sure that counselling and support is available to survivors before and after they provide evidence to the inquiry.

And to make sure there is an open channel of communication between survivors, the panel and the Government, I will establish a survivor liaison group which will meet on a regular basis as long as the inquiry continues.

I know that some Members of the House have suggested that the Government should publish today the Wanless report about the Home Office Permanent Secretary’s investigation into the so-called Dickens Dossier. I can tell the House that the Wanless report will be published next week. This is because it is about a separate but related matter to the work of the panel inquiry, and I want members of the public and the media to have time to scrutinise both this statement and the Wanless review properly.

Mr Speaker, in the midst of debate about names, structures and legal powers, we must always keep in mind the survivors of child abuse themselves. Because let us remember the events that prompted me to announce this historic inquiry into child abuse in the first place.

There was the systematic abuse of vulnerable young girls in Derby, Rochdale, Oxford, and other towns and cities across the country. Examples of celebrities abusing minors and getting away with it, apparently because of their fame. And evidence that some of the most important institutions in the country – from the BBC to the NHS – failed in their duty of care towards children.

Since I made my statement in July, the evidence has only mounted. We have seen the Alexis Jay report into abuse in Rotherham and the report by the Hon Member for Stockport which was commissioned by Tony Lloyd, the police and crime commissioner for Greater Manchester. Both reports exposed serious failings among the police, social services, schools and other institutions. And the obvious conclusion is that if only we’d learned from these appalling cases earlier, there would be fewer victims of abuse today.

I believe the whole House will agree with me that we owe it to the survivors in all these cases to work together, to let the panel inquiry do its job as quickly as possible, and to start to learn the lessons of the many cases where undoubtedly too many things went horribly wrong.

I want to end my statement by issuing a direct message to the many survivors of child abuse and their representatives. I know you have experienced terrible things. I know we cannot imagine what that must be like. And I know – perhaps because of the identity of your abusers or the way you were treated when you needed help – many of you have lost trust in the authorities. I know some of you have questioned the legitimacy of this process. I know you are disappointed that the panel has no chairman. I understand that. I am listening.

And to you, I say this. I am as determined as you are to get to the truth. That is why I set up this inquiry. We have a-once-in-a-generation opportunity to do something that is hugely important. Together, we can expose what has gone wrong in the past. We can prevent it going wrong in the future. We can make sure people who thought they were beyond the reach of the law face justice. We can do everything possible to save vulnerable young children from the appalling abuse that you suffered and endured. Let us come together to make this process work and finally deliver justice for what you – and too many others – have suffered.